A Plea for Empathy and Connection

Loneliness. It’s a heavy word, isn’t it? But for many elderly people, it’s a crushing reality. A recent news article tore at my heartstrings. An abandoned husband, a retired bank employee, left alone in Bhopal by his own family.

He didn’t crave money; his pension sufficed. All he yearned for was the warmth of family, a place to belong. This story struck a chord deep within me, a fellow elder grappling with the sting of isolation. Sometimes me too.

The erosion of our social fabric,

This isn’t an anomaly. Elder neglect is a growing epidemic. I recall another story, etched in my memory: a son callously leaving his ailing father during the pandemic. Neighbors, not family, became his lifeline.

The elderly recovered, but the emotional scars linger. The erosion of our social fabric, and the disintegration of families, leave our elders adrift in a sea of loneliness.

Old age itself presents a multitude of challenges. Our bodies betray us, memories fade, and illness becomes a constant companion. Daily tasks become herculean feats, and we rely on others for even the most basic needs. Yet, we persevere, clinging to the threads of life.

Loneliness cuts the deepest.

But loneliness, oh, loneliness, cuts the deepest. Our homes, once sanctuaries, become cold and empty. We feel like burdens, invisible presences in our own families. Neglected, ostracized, and consumed by despair, we yearn for the sweet release of death.

The video I shared earlier that included offers a glimpse into the heart of an elder, a window into their silent suffering. Sometimes, it’s the little things that inflict the most profound wounds.

A careless word, spoken in haste, can leave an indelible mark on a fragile spirit. The elderly dwell on these slights, their minds churning with the pain of rejection. They raised their children with love, and now, they feel abandoned in their twilight years.

This isn’t just an Indian problem. Loneliness plagues elders across the globe. Studies reveal a stark correlation between social isolation and health issues in the elderly. Depression, and stress – these monsters take root and fester in the absence of connection.

The Elderly have a cage in the form of old age homes

In the West, elderly care often takes the form of old age homes, a stark contrast to the traditional Indian ideal of multigenerational families. While this trend is emerging in India too, it’s a heartbreaking development. Many elders who do live with their families face a different kind of isolation – ignored, their voices drowned out by the constant buzz of mobile phones.

Yes, the digital age presents a new challenge. Adults and children alike are consumed by their devices, leaving the elderly yearning for genuine human connection.

Two sides to every coin

There are two sides to every coin. Yes, children need to be more empathetic, but elders too must strive for harmony. Adjustments are inevitable, especially when navigating the complexities of daughter-in-law relationships. Understanding and a spirit of compromise are key to maintaining a peaceful household.

Consider yourselves fortunate if you have elders gracing your homes. Their presence is a gift, not a burden. Remember, the true measure of a person lies in how they treat their elders. Don’t just say your parents live with you, say you have the privilege of living with them.

Treat them with respect, shower them with love, and cherish their wisdom. Listen to their stories, for they are a treasure trove of experience. Their blessings hold immense power.

This is my plea, my heartfelt cry: Let empathy be our guiding light. Bridge the generation gap, foster connection, and vanquish the silent monster of loneliness. Let us create a world where elders feel loved, valued, and heard.

BE HAPPY….BE ACTIVE….BE FOCUSED….BE ALIVE…

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Tags: #elderly, #Emotional, #Family, #Loneliness, #Respect to Elder, #wellness, elder-care