An Attitude of Gratitude in life

It is the time when giving thanks is top of our minds. In this stage of corona pandemic that causes us to think about all of the special things in our lives and express gratitude for them. We are safe and must be grateful to God..

An attitude of gratitude means making it a habit to express thankfulness and appreciation in all parts of your life, on regular basis for both the bigger and smaller things in our life.

When you concentrate on what you have, you will always have more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never have enough.

Life will be better if we develop an attitude of gratitude.

It is the fact that we all are receiving so many graces from the universe. The earth we walk upon, the air we breathe, the sunlight that falls on our skin creating vitamin D for us.

All of these are gifts of God. To be aware of the gift that we have received, this creates the attitude of gratitude.

There is a beautiful story…

One poet was sitting in his home, pondering over the deficiencies in his life,… not enough good clothes to wear, or delicious items to eat . 

When all of sudden he heard a knock on his door, he went up and opening it and his doorway he saw an astonishing sight,

There was a man with one leg missing.  He was holding himself up with the staff that he held in his arm. And the other arm was missing but this man had a string of toys hanging around his neck as a necklace. Actually he was selling toys.

The visitor said..  sir, I am a toy seller and  I am selling these wares , would you be interested in buying any item..

The poet moved to pity and with the utmost empathy for the perceive suffering of this toy sellers, he said …khilone-wala… don’t you feel bad about what you are missing in life..

The toy seller said..…sir, I just remember what I have ..one leg and one arm. Also I have the opportunity  to sell these toys. I see them as object of happiness that brings the joys in the life of others.

So, I am perfectly happy in my life.

Is there something I can do for you?

The poet thought about it. Here am I, who has got a body that is completely intact. But I am repeatedly thinking about what I do not possess.

And here is someone with one arm and one leg missing and yet he is thanking god for his graces.

The lesson in the story is to remember the gift that we have received.

Everyday won’t be perfect, but focusing on what we are grateful for tends to wash away feelings of anger and negativity.

The recent studies show that feeling and expressing gratitude leads to better physical health. They  found that participants who kept a journal most days of the week, writing about 2-3 things they are grateful for had, reduced level of inflammation and improved heart rhythm compare to people who did not write in a journal.

And the journal keeper also showed a decrease risk of heart disease after only 2 months of this new routine.

Here is some tactics to develop this mindset…

  1. Wake up every day and express to yourself what you are grateful for..
  2. Tell whoever you are with right now the 3 things that you are most grateful for in this moments.
  3. Start gratitude journal – express gratitude in this journal every night by noting the things that you are grateful for in this moment,
  4. Acknowledge for what you have done and accomplished in the last day/week/month/year, instead of comparing yourself to others, give yourself credit for big or small things you have been doing.
  5. Acknowledge other people and thank them for inspiring/helping /supporting you. Often people wait their whole lives to be acknowledged  

So try adopting some of the above tactics even just one or two in order to develop an overall grateful mindset, it takes a bit of work but having an attitude of gratitude is one of the most impactful habits for fulfilling and healthy life.

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हर ब्लॉग कुछ कहता है –5

 

मन और मस्तिष्क…

हमारा मन  मस्तिष्क की उस क्षमता को कहते है , जो हमें  चिंतन-शक्ति, स्मरण –शक्ति , निर्णय शक्ति , बुद्धि भाव, एकाग्रता, व्यवहार कुशल, होने में  मदद करती है /

लोग कहते है मन बड़ा चंचल होता है, अगर यह अपने वश में रहे तो आप ज़िन्दगी में जो चाहते हो उसे पा सकते है और इसके विपरीत अगर आप उसके वश में हो गए तो फिर यह ज़िन्दगी को रसातल में भी पहुँचा सकता है /

मैं तो बहुत दिनों से अपने मन को वश में रखने की कोशिश कर रहा हूँ /

इसके लिए मैं हमेशा दैनिक कार्यों में अपने को व्यस्त रखने की कोशिश करता हूँ / काम में इतना मन को डूबा देता हूँ कि मन को फ्री घुमने फिरने की फुर्सत ही नहीं मिलती /

क्योकि मेरा मानना है कि अगर मैं  किसी काम में अपने को व्यस्त रखता हूँ तो मेरा मन इधर उधर भटकेगा ही नहीं बल्कि उसे वश में रखना आसान हो जाता है /

बस, जो हो रहा है उसे होने दे, परन्तु  दिमाग कहता है …ऐसा क्यों होने दें /  मैं जो चाहता हूँ वह कब होगा /

इसी उहा – पोह में मन फिर चंचल हो जाता है और वह अपना काम करने में लग जाता है /

मन यतार्थ को पहचानता है / इस कडवे सच के साथ वह स्वप्नलोक की सैर करना नहीं भूलता /

जब बुरा समय से गुजरता हूँ तो मन आशा के बीज बोता है और कहता है हिम्मत ना हार, एक प्रयास और कर / अच्छा समय अब आने वाला ही है /

और मैंने कहीं पढ़ा है …मन के हारे हार है …, मन के जीते जीत /  

यह जो दो अक्षर से बना शब्द है  “मन”, .. उसमे  दुनिया जहान की सारी बातें समाहित होती है /

सच, मन बड़ा चंचल है …मन तो बिलकुल उस मोर के जैसा होता है …, जब खुश होता है तो अपने पंखों को फैला कर नाचता हुआ ख़ुशी का इज़हार करता है और दुसरे ही पल जब उसकी नज़रे स्वयं के कुरूप पैरों पर पड़ती है तो वह  दुखी हो उठता है / 

ऐसा ही हमारा मन विचारों के समंदर में डुबकी लगाता रहता है / समंदर के प्रत्येक लहर के साथ अपने अनुभव लेने को तैयार रहता है /

मन बड़ा कोमल भी होता है ….बिलकुल उस कोमल पंखुरी के समान जिसने अभी अभी बारिश की बूंदों का स्पर्श किया हो /

प्रत्येक व्यक्ति के सोच का अपना एक दायरा होता है ….मन कभी नकारात्मक तो कभी सकारात्मक दोनों तरह के विचार करता है /  इसको समझ पाना कठिन है….. 

वैसे वैज्ञानिकों के अनुसार मन को तीन भागों में बांटा जा सकता है…

  • सचेतन…यह मन का दसवां हिस्सा होता है, जिसमे स्वयं और वातावरण के बारे में जानकारी होती है, अर्थात हम चेतन अवस्था में रहते है /
  • अचेतन ….यह मन का ९०% हिस्सा होता है,  जिसके कार्य के बारे में व्यक्ति को जानकारी नहीं रहती है / यह मन की स्वस्थ और अस्वस्थ क्रियाओं पर प्रभाव डालता है /

इसमें व्यक्ति की मूल प्रवृति से जुड़ी इच्छाएं जैसे भूख, प्यास यौन इच्छाएं दबी रहती है / यदि यह दबी इच्छाएं नियंत्रण शक्ति के बच कर प्रकट हो जाएँ तो कई तरह के लक्षण मनुष्य में दिखाई पड़ने लगते है, जो आगे चल कर मनोरोग का रूप ले लेते है /  

  • अर्धचेतन….यह सचेतन और अचेतन के बीच  का हिस्सा है ..जिसे मनुष्य चाहने पर इन्तेमाल कर सकता है / जैसे स्मरण शक्ति का वह हिस्सा जिसे व्यक्ति प्रयास कर के किसी घटना को याद करने में प्रयोग कर सकता है /

वैसे मन की दो अवस्थाएं होती है ..एक क्षण में रुखा और कठोर बनाने की क्षमता रखता है दुसरे ही पल कोमल और सुन्दर विचार को जन्म देता है /

जब कोई हमें अच्छा लगता है तो उसके बारे में सुंदर और कोमल ख्याल आते रहते है और वह कोई गलती कर दे तो दुसरे ही पल मन में  रुखा और कठोर विचार उसके प्रति  उत्पन्न होने  लगता है /

इसलिए ज़रूरी है कि मन को संतुलित रखा जाए / वैसे तो बहुत सारे उपाय है जिससे इसे संतुलित किया जा सकता है लेकिन “ध्यान योग” एक ऐसी क्रिया है जिसके  उपयोग से मन को नियंत्रित कर सकते है /

जब भी मन में रूखे और कठोर  विचार आये या गुस्सा आये  तो उसी समय “ध्यान योग” का प्रयोग करना चाहिए / इससे कठोर विचार कोमल  और अच्छे विचार में परिवर्तित कर सकते है /

आज की उत्पन्न परिस्थिति में जब आदमी के ज़िन्दगी में तनाव ज्यादा है |

ऐसी स्थिति में हम ध्यान योग से अपने मन मस्तिष्क को काबू में रख कर और उसे अच्छे सकारात्मक विचारो  और  कार्यों के तरफ प्रेरित कर सकते है |

आइये आज से ही हम सब इस दिशा में प्रयास शुरू कर दे , मन को नियंत्रण में रखे  |

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Are you happy today …??

Wonderful call

Covid-19 is hitting way too close to everyone’s home. With a sad heart but with a strong faith in the Heavenly Father, today I kneel down in #prayer, asking for a full recovery of those with Covid-19 and Lord I’m asking You to continue to protect & cover those who have not yet suffered the infection.  Give more strength to all the front liners who are exhausted but are not giving up.

To those who are reading this message,  I want you post this prayer message on your status page for at least one day. I’m asking you to let us be in unity.

May God bless us! 

     Are you happy today …??

Happiness is a sense of well-being, joy or contentment. When people are successful, or safe, or lucky, they feel happiness.

It means Happiness is the feeling that comes over you when you know life is good.

The ultimate goal of every person is to be happy and all efforts are being made to achieve that happiness in life.

The biggest belief that we will establish within ourselves is in regard to happiness. Where are we convinced we can get true happiness . That one decision will determine the trajectory of our life.

If somebody firmly believes that happiness is in money, then his entire energy, his entire effort is spent in the pursuit of earning money.

If somebody believes that happiness is in achieving prestige and fame, then that is where his entire energy goes.

If somebody believes happiness is in God, then he strives to know and love God.

So, this puzzles regarding happiness need to be solved to put our life in the proper direction…there is beautiful story in this context..

There was once a crow that became unhappy about his state.

He thought, “I have this dark and ugly color”.

If I were a swan, I would be white coloured and so happy “.

The crow went to the swan, and said ,..Mr. swan”… You must be the happiest bird.” In contrast to me you have this milk white color.”

The swan said, “Mr. Crow”…. I thought, I should be happy, until I saw the Parrot and then I realized, I am a single colored bird. He is a double colored bird.

He is the one who must be happy.

The crow then went on to meet the Parrot and he said Mr. Parrot ..You have this green color given to you by God and you also have a tinge of red in certain places.

These two color of yours in contrast to my single dark color. You must be a very happy bird, 

The parrot said, I thought, I was happy until I saw the peacock and the luscious splatter of colors on the peacock’s tail.  That made me really miserable.

The crow, in search for the secret of happiness then continued. And ultimately found a peacock.

He said… Mr. Peacock… God has created you with great affection. He has filled your tail plumes with such rich violets and indigos and greens and blues. You must be a really happy bird.

The peacock said Mr. crow.. I thought I should be happy. But because of all those colors, I was put into the zoo.

If I did not have such attractive colors then I would have been a free bird like you.

The crow then realized.. Nobody seems to be happy.

So what then is the secret of happiness..?

According to Aristotle…happiness is the meaning and purpose of Life. The whole aim and end of human existence.

Of course, there are a number of different types of happiness and each person has different things in life that make them happy and unhappy.

It is important for people to be self-aware and to truly understand what make them happy and content as individuals..

There are broadly three types of happiness,  these being related to Pleasure, Passion and Purpose…

Pleasure: 

Pleasure is important to us as human beings but its related benefits are relatively short term.  A delicious meal, a nice meeting with friends or listening to our favourite music all produce endorphins and offer us happy moments that can be the highlights of our day.

  However, these singular moments don’t equate to long-term satisfaction.

Passion: 

Being passionate about something whether a hobby, cause or group activity and actively being involved with it can be a great source of happiness.  These activities deliver contentment in the medium term and provide a sense of achievement and variety in life.

Purpose: 

Feeling like you are part of something bigger than yourself and that your actions really matter can lead to a deep sense of fulfillment and long-term happiness. 

We all like to think that our lives have meaning and if you can find your “calling” or be part of a great team, group or organization that are making a difference,  then chances are you will be truly happy.

Misperceptions abound when it comes to what really makes people happy. From pinning hopes of happiness on wealth, status, and possessions, to avoiding any feelings of distress, we are poor predictors of our own future happiness.

But understanding what underlies happiness can help you take steps to achieve it.

Happiness encompasses feelings of satisfaction and contentment and the drive to live a life of meaning, purpose, and depth.

It involves creating strong relationships and helping others. It requires uncomfortable or painful experiences—to continue to learn, grow, and evolve.

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Simple ways to relieve Stress:

 Stress is the feeling of emotional or physical tension. It can come from any event or thought that makes you feel frustrated, angry or nervous.

There are numerous studies that show how the problem of stress, anxiety and depression is becoming omnipresent and affecting a vast majority of us. A recent study by ASSOCHAM revealed that 42.4% of employee in the Indian pvt sector suffers from depression. It is also revealed that much higher % of the working population is under stress without even realising it and the epidemic of stress is bound to grow as work is undergoing rapid change now a days.

There are so many reasons of stress and depression..

Artificial Intelligent (A.I.) :

The nature of work is fast changing due to A.I. at workplace and is one of the major source of stress and for  those people who is unable to adopt the quick change in the work. Now it is very necessary to know how to deal with this.

We have some suggestions to get rid of the stress : …

  1. Acknowledge the stress : Whether we are enjoying the work or feel boredom and anxiety with the work doing for the livelihood.

To overcome leverage our strength… don’t focus on your weakness but leveraging our innate strength and do the work with confidence and love the work you do..

Finding our IKIGAI :

It  is a Japanese term meaning doing your work with feeling of great enjoyment and fully absorbed in it. This technique is very helpful to manage stress.

Develop high emotional intelligence (E.I) :

 It is all about our understanding of our own emotions and emotions of others and handle the situation  accordingly.

It is very helpful in the stay away from stress as one can observe feeling bodily sensation and thought.

Breath consciously:…

Breathing exercise is very helpful to distress. Whenever you feel stress, Take a long inhale and exhale for some time in between work and you will feel cooling down the pressure. It is very easy and useful technique to adopt.

Write a journals..

This is also a very powerful technique for dealing with stress. Writing about the emotional feeling we felt during the tough time, just use your note pad, dairy or in mobile phone. Expressing your emotions is helping to distress. It was the same thing that after picking up garbage from every corner of your house and putting it in the Trash box and the house get cleaned.

Mediation:

This is probably the single greatest spiritual practice of all time to stay away from stress and anxiety. Meditation is life changing. It is one of best things ever to keep balancing physically, mentally, emotionally, energetically and spiritually. It is powerful, transformative, and life changing.

Meditation makes you more conscious and aware of everything…. .Yourself, Other People and the world around you.

Meditation allows you to see and perceive more clearly : 

Meditation quietens the mind and allows you to see things more clearly. It reveals blind spots and makes many things obvious that weren’t easy or even possible to see when your mind was busy.

The more you meditate, the clearer your mind and your perspective becomes.

Some of the deepest and most profound insights and realizations of my life have come to me just sitting or lying down in meditation.

Meditation opens your mind : 

There aren’t a lot of closed minded mediators. A closed mind comes from rigid thinking patterns and from thinking the same thoughts over and over again thousands of times.

Meditation however allows you to get some space between you and your mind so that you aren’t so identified with your thoughts. Once you start meditating for long enough, you will definitely start to perceive ‘your’ thoughts as alien and foreign.

Meditation will change your personality for the better. 

There aren’t too many arrogant, loud mouths, know-it-all meditators. Meditation changes the way you think, feel and act for the better. It makes you calmer, happier, and more peaceful.

It makes you more OK and less resistant to ‘what is’. 

It is said that  when someone doesn’t meditate often / at all, because they can’t slow down or stop talking and they get angry and frustrated easily at the smallest things.

Meditation decreases anxiety, blood pressure, stress, tension and worry.

Meditation is good for concentration, creativity, emotional well-being, focus, learning/studying, mood, intuition, mental health and peace of mind

Meditation recharges your batteries and gives your body and mind a break

Meditation makes food taste better, music sound better and improves your intuition and senses.

It is recommended making meditation a daily habit for at least 20 minutes a day. You can do it for 10 minutes in the morning and 10 minutes at night.

That might sound like a lot and at first it will probably be incredibly difficult. But the more you persist with it the easier it gets and believe me the benefits are well worth it and you’ll soon want to do it even more.

Now the Question arises …How to meditate :

There are so many different ways to meditate and different ways suit different people.

As I personally do Meditation In the morning time, Sitting crossed legged with an erect posture and my eyes closed

My palms are facing upwards and my thumbs are touching my index fingers that are it.

Do:

  • Let EVERYTHING be EXACTLY as it is
  • Let everyone outside make as much noise as they want to
  • Watch your thoughts come and go and your emotions rise and fall like waves in the ocean
  • Focus on your breath.

Don’t:

  • Don’t try to do anything
  • Don’t try to get anything
  • Don’t try to achieve anything
  • Don’t try to get enlightened
  • Don’t attach to or resist anything that arises. Don’t even resist resistance if that comes up. If you feel any resistance to resistance let the inner resistance be there without trying to push it away.
  • Don’t judge or label any thoughts good or bad, right or wrong, true or false

There can be thousands of other way also to deal with stress but you can choose what suit you to work for..

I would say that please identify your stress level and take steps to deal with and make physically and mentally fit…   

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Words of wisdom

Someone graduated from the institute at 22 years old, but at the same time had to wait three years for a job.

Some became a successful director in 25 but died at 50 years old, and someone became a director in 50, but died at 90..

Someone is still single at 32 and someone already has a family and children at 26 and preparing for divorce or just enjoying their life in peace and harmony.

Macron became president at 39 years old, and Robert Mugabe at 63 years old .

Schumacher became a champion at 25 years old. But Nino Farina won his first race at 44 years.

Warren Buffett became a billionaire at 56 years old and Zuckerberg at the age of

23 years old.

Kylie Jenner became the youngest billionaire girl at the age of 21, leaving far behind young male billionaire.

The famous Irish brewer Arthur Guinness had 21 children until 56 years old and George Clooney first became a father at 55 years old.

Everyone in this world runs their own race, according to their own way, in their own time. Everything is multifaceted and ambiguous.

Time is the difference..

If you think about it. Everything in the world , works based on its own time zone.

Your friends may be ahead of you and someone may be behind.

It is all natural. Everyone has their own distance in their time zone.

 Don’t be jealous, don’t compare, they are in their time zone and you are in yours.

clothes, caste, place all the factor are necessary, but that doesn’t describe you , because you are unique… Be happy the way you are living . Everyone is unique in their own way…

Life is a moment, waiting for good occasions, time and case as they say …

So relax and enjoy.

You are not late.

You are not early.

You are on time

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Someone said correctly that 70 % of our illness comes from internal factor and negativity of the brain,

We can say that due to negative or wrong thoughts created in the brain cause mental tension and mental weakness and anger.

And 30 % of our illness comes due to external factors which are beyond our control. Hence if we control our negative thought, anger, sadness, jealous and unwarranted fear, we can control 70% of our illness by healthy life style, daily exercise and good food habits .One should always try to be happy in the present environment, no one can control external factor but can very much control our internal situation of life.

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हर ब्लॉग कुछ कहता है ….3

ज़रूरी नहीं कि हर समय जुवान पे भगवान का नाम याद आए, 

वो लम्हा भी भक्ति का ही होता है जब इंसान – इंसान के काम आए

जाड़े की रात थी, मैं घर में बैठे अपने रूटीन के मुताबित रात्रि में अपना ब्लॉग लिख रहा था | मैं इसी समय दिन भर के बिताये समय को कलमबद्ध करता हूँ |

अचानक मेरे मोबाइल की घंटी बज उठी | मैं पहले दीवार पर टंगी घडी की ओर देखा तो रात के आठ  बजे रहे थे और फिर मोबाइल की तरफ देखा |

फ़ोन करने वाला मेरा दोस्त शशांक  था | इतनी रात को अचानक उसका फ़ोन आने से किसी आशंका से मन घबरा उठा | अगर कोई  ऐसी काम होता तो सीधा घर चला आता था | उसका घर मेरे घर से तीन स्टेशन दूर नैहाटी में है और ट्रेन से सिर्फ 15 मिनट का ही रास्ता है |

मैंने ज्योही उसका फ़ोन उठाया ,उसने शिकायत भरे  लहजे में बोला ..क्यों भाई आज भी मुझे भूल गए ?

मतलब …मैंने आश्चर्य से पूछा |

तुम भूल गए कि आज मेरा बर्थडे है | मैंने पार्टी में शरीक होने के लिए सुबह ही तुझे मेसेज भी किया था और तुम ने फेस बुक  पर बर्थडे की मुझे बधाई भी दी थी |

मैं तुम्हारे इंतज़ार में अभी तक केक भी नहीं काट सका हूँ .. उसने शिकायत भरे लहजे में कहा |

अरे यार, वैरी सॉरी ..बस मैं अभी आता हूँ …कह कर ब्लॉग लिखना बंद कर दिया और मन ही मन सोचा कि इसे वापस आ कर पूरा करूँगा |

मैं जल्दी से तैयार होकर कल्याणी स्टेशन पहुँच गया जो मेरे घर से थोड़ी दूर पर ही था |

संयोग से तुरंत ही लोकल ट्रेन भी मिल गई और मैं २० मिनट की यात्रा कर उसके घर पहुँच गया और केक cutting ceremony  में शरीक हो गया |

उसके बाद डिनर का कार्यक्रम भी रखा था | इस कोरोना के कारण बहुत दिनों से कही भी आना जाना  बिलकुल ही बंद था | लेकिन  आज बहुत दिनों के बाद इस तरह की पार्टी में शरीक होने का मौका मिला था |

लोगों से मिल कर बहुत अच्छा लग रहा था,  हालाँकि सभी के चेहरे पर मास्क लगा था | हंसने पर सिर्फ उनकी आवाज़ सुनकर ही ख़ुशी का अंदाज़ा लगाया जा सकता था , चेहरे का expression तो दीखता ही नहीं था  | अब तो शर्ट पेंट की तरह ही मास्क एक ज़रूरी पहनावा बन चूका है |

खाना खा कर मज़ा आ गया | वैसे भी बंगाल में लोग खाने  और खिलाने के बहुत शौक़ीन होते है | तभी तो आज खाने में दो तरह की मछली और चिकेन सब कुछ था | भोजन स्वादिस्ट था इसलिए कुछ ज्यादा ही खा लिया |

खाना खा कर अपने दोस्त से विदा लिया और रेलवे स्टेशन नैहाटी आ गया ताकि यहाँ से लोकल ट्रेन पकड़  वापस घर जा सकूँ |

मेरी ट्रेन आने में अभी आधा घंटा की देरी थी | इसलिए मैंने सोचा कि स्टेशन पर ही थोडा टहल लेता हूँ ताकि खाना पचने में आसानी हो |

मैं टहलते हुए प्लेटफार्म नंबर एक पर स्थित टिकट घर की तरफ टिकट लेने हेतु गया | तभी एक भीख मांगती औरत को देखा | उसके चेहरे से लगा वह बहुत भूखी है और इतनी रात को सबो के पास जाकर खाना मांग रही थी |

उसे देख कर मुझे अपने आज की पार्टी की याद आ गई | कैसे सबो को जबरदस्ती ही ज़रुरत से ज्यादा खाना खिलाया गया था जिसे पचाने के लिए मुझे इतनी रात को टहलना पड़  रहा है और दूसरी तरफ यह भिखारन बेचारी जिसे सुबह से शायद खाना नसीब नहीं हुआ है | और खाने की तलाश में इतनी रात को दर दर भटक रही है

मैं मन ही मन सोचने लगा कि किसी होटल से लाकर उसे भर पेट खाना खिला दूँ |

तभी देखा कि एक व्यक्ति एक पैकेट में खाना ला कर उसे दे दिया है और वह वही ज़मीन पर बैठ कर खाने लगी|

मैंने देखा …तभी दो कुत्ते उसके सामने आये और उसकी खाने की ओर देखने लगे |

उसने अपने खाने में से उन दोनों कुत्तों को पहले खिलाया और फिर खुद खाने लगी | मैं यह सब देख कर भाव बिह्वल हो गया और उसी समय उन दृश्य को अपने मोबाइल के कैमरे में कैद कर लिया |

मुझे यह एहसास हुआ कि एक तरफ वो गरीब लोग है जिन्हें दो जून का खाना ठीक से नसीब नहीं होता है, फिर भी जो खाना मिलता है उसे मिल बाँट कर खाते है और यहाँ तक कि पशु पक्षियों को भी अपनी हिस्से से खाना निकाल कर पहले उसे खिलाते है और जितना भी मिलता है उसी में संतुस्ट रहते है |

दूसरी तरफ हमलोग है जो खाने से ज्यादा दिखावा करते है और खाने की बर्बादी करते है | जिनका पेट भरा होता है उसी को और भरते है पर खाली पेट वालो की तरफ ना तो अपनी  नज़रे घुमाते है और ना ही उनके बारे में कभी सोचते है ..

इस भिखारिन ने सोचने पर मजबूर कर दिया कि सचमुच गरीब कौन है…. वो भिखारिन या हम ?

मैं वापस घर आ कर अपने कलम और डायरी निकाल कर इस ब्लॉग को पूरा किया |

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आज मैं एक और ख़ुशी के समाचार से अवगत हुआ,  वैसे आज कल मैं कोरोना के कारण किसी भी न्यूज़ चैनल या न्यूज़ पेपर से दूर रहता हूँ, क्योंकि  इन सबों में डराने वाले समाचार ही ज्यादा होते | लेकिन कभी कभी कुछ अच्छे समाचार भी दिख जाते है,  आज कुछ ऐसा ही मन को सुकून देने वाला समाचार पढने को मिला |

इस समाचार को पढ़कर यह महसूस हुआ कि मानवता की सच्ची सेवा कर असीम आनंद का स्वाद चखा जा सकता है |

करोना की इस महामारी के दौरान यह तो समझ आ गया कि पैसे की बहुत ज्यादा अहमियत ज़िन्दगी में नहीं है, जितना कि आप कितने स्वस्थ है और कितना खुश है |

इन दिनों यह महसूस किया गया है कि पैसा रहते हुए भी कैरोना मरीज़ को हॉस्पिटल में जगह नहीं मिल पा रही है |  कारण की रोगियों की संख्या दिन प्रतिदिन बढ़ते जा रहे है और उतनी सुविधाएँ हमारे पास उपलब्ध नहीं है | पैसा होते हुए भी ज़िन्दगी के सुरक्षा की कोई गारंटी नहीं है |

आज मैंने पढ़ा …कुछ मजदूर लोग अपने परिवार के साथ दिल्ली से पटना तक का सफ़र हवाई जहाज से कर रहे हैं |

वो बेचारे मजदूर जिन्होंने कभी सपने में भी नहीं सोचा होगा कि हवाई  जहाज पर बैठेंगे, वो आज हवाई जहाज़ से सफ़र कर रहे है |

सचमुच ये तो बस ख्वाब के पूरा होने के जैसा था जो कभी उन्होंने आकाश में उड़ते जहाज हो देख कर सोचा होगा कि वो भी कभी आकाश की उचाईयों से धरती के हरे भरे खेतो और नदी नालों को देखेंगे | और मन ही मन शायद यह भी सोचता होगा  कि कितना आनंद आता होगा जब बादलों के ऊपर यह जहाज़ तैरता होगा |

घटना कुछ यूँ हुआ कि लॉक डाउन में कुछ  मजदूर परिवार जो दिल्ली में काम करते थे, वे वहाँ फंस गए | वे सब बिहार के समस्तीपुर जिले के रहने वाले थे |

वो उत्तरी दिल्ली के तिगिपुर गाँव में एक बड़े किसान के पास  पुरे परिवार के साथ मशरुम फार्म में मजदूरी करता था और साल में एक बार घर जाने की उसे छुट्टी मिलती थी |

लेकिन इस बार छुट्टियों के समय घर नहीं जा पा रहे थे | क्योंकि वे सब लॉक डाउन के कारण वहाँ फंस गए थे |

पहले तो उन सबो का मालिक जो एक बड़ा किसान था और मशरूम की खेती करता था, उनसबों को रेल से बिहार भेजने के लिए श्रमिक एक्सप्रेस में टिकट की बुकिंग कराने की कोशिश की | लेकिन दुर्भाग्यवश  बात नहीं बन पाई , क्योंकि वो ट्रेन ही कैंसिल हो गयी | 

वो किसान जिसका नाम श्री पप्पन सिंह गहलोत था एक दरियादिल इंसान था और उसने दरिअदिली दिखाते हुए, ट्रेन का आवागमन बंद होने के बाबजूद अपने १० मजदूर भाई और उसके परिवार को पटना भेजने के फैसले पर दृढ था |

और जब और कोई सुरक्षित साधन नहीं दिखा तो उसने अंततः अपने जेब से ६०,००० रूपये खर्च कर सबों के लिए हवाई टिकट खरीद डाले | ताकि वे लोग सुरक्षित अपने घर जा सके |

उनका कहना था कि आज कल समाचारों में आये दिन देखता हूँ कि बहुत सारी घटनाएँ घट रही है | प्रवासी श्रमिक लोग घर पलायन करते हुए रास्ते में ही मौत का शिकार हो रहे है | ये जो हमारे मजदूर है हमारे परिवार के सदस्य जैसे है और इनकी सुरक्षा मेरी जिम्मेवारी है |

काश ऐसी सोच सभी लोग रखे तो हमारे समाज में बहुत बड़ा परिवर्तन आ जायेगा और मानवता एक बार फिर सिर उठा कर कहेगी …मैं अभी जिंदा हूँ |

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मैं अभी अभी मोर्निंग- वाक से आया हूँ | सुबह के आठ बज रहे है और चाय का कप मेरे सामने है |     चाय की चुस्की लेते हुए मैं कुछ लिखने का प्रयास का रहा हूँ, जिसे ब्लॉग के रूप में आप सबों के साथ शेयर कर सकूँ |

आप ज़रूर जानना चाहेंगे कि ऐसी क्या बात हो गयी, जिसे आप सबों के साथ शेयर करने को उत्सुक हो रहा हूँ …..

बात यह है कि आज  मैं एक घंटा पहले घर के सामने स्थित चिल्ड्रेन – पार्क में टहल रहा था | और फिर थोड़ी देर टहलने के बाद वही एक जगह बैठ कर योगा करने लगा | यह मेरा रोज का नियम है |

उसी समय ३०-३५ साल का एक युवक मेरे पास आया और मुझे प्रणाम कर मेरे सामने ही बैठ गया | मुझे देखते हुए वो भी योगा करने लगा |

उसी दौरान उसने मुझसे बाते भी करनी शुरू कर दी | उसने अपना नाम जयंत बताया और यह भी कहा कि वो भी बैंक में नौकरी करता है और वो मुझे भी जानता है कि मैं एक बैंकर हूँ |

यह तो अच्छी बात है, लेकिन अब तो मैं  रिटायर हो गया हूँ …मैंने कहा |

जी सर, वो मैं जनता हूँ | दरअसल आप को मैं बताना चाहता हूँ कि आप से मैं बहुत मोटीवेट (motivate) होता रहता हूँ | आप का फेसबुक अकाउंट फॉलो करता हूँ , आप के सारे ब्लॉग पढता हूँ और यहाँ रोज़ आप को सुबह में देख कर ही मैं भी जॉगिंग करने आता हूँ …उसने  खुश हो कर कहा |

तुम तो मेरे बारे में इतना कुछ ऐसे बता रहा हो जैसे मेरी जासूसी कर रहे हो …मैंने  हँसते हुए कहा |

वो भी हंसने लगा और फिर कहा …मैं कुछ ही दिनों से आपको फॉलो कर रहा हूँ | लेकिन थोड़े ही दिनों में मैं अपने अंदर बहुत परिवर्तन महसूस करने लगा हूँ |

मैं  पहले मानसिक और शारीरिक रूप से बहुत कमज़ोर था, मुझमे नाकारात्मक सोच घर कर गई थी और मैं हमेशा बिना वज़ह के परेशान रहता था |

लेकिन मैं आपको आदर्श मान  कर आप के सभी अच्छे आदतों की नक़ल करने लगा और उसका नतीजा यह हुआ कि मेरी सभी तरह की दवाइयां बंद हो गई है और अब मैं बिलकुल स्वस्थ हूँ |

मैं उसकी इन बातों को सुन कर अवाक् रह गया | क्या हमारे जीवन  मोटिवेशन (motivation) का इतना महत्व है |

मैं खुद का भी विश्लेषण करने लगा …यह सच है कि मैं भी तो यही करता हूँ |

मैंने भी अपने आदर्श गुरु बना रखे है, हालाँकि मैं उनके पास नहीं जाता और ना ही उनसे मिल ही पाया हूँ | फिर भी उनकी Motivational  speech को सुनता हूँ | उनके जीवन संघर्ष की कहानी पढता हूँ |

एक काम और भी करता हूँ … सुबह सुबह रोज़  मोर्निंग वाक के समय अपने को motivate करने के लिए वाक के साथ साथ अपने motivational  song या motivational speech सुनता हूँ | इसके अलावा  धार्मिक गुरुओं की अध्यात्मिक बातों को भी हेड फ़ोन लगा कर सुनता रहता हूँ |

 इससे अपने अंदर एनर्जी महसूस करता हूँ | और यही एनर्जी  दिन भर  मुझे जोश से भरपूर रखता है |

 यह motivation क्या है ? और यह कैसे मेरे ज़िन्दगी पर प्रभाव डालती है | मैं इसका बारीकी से अध्ययन करने लगा हूँ /

मैं भी पहले हमेशा चिंतित रहता था, बहुत ही चिडचिडा हो गया था | छोटी छोटी बातों पर गुस्सा आ जाता था | मैं तो परेशान रहता ही था. हमारे साथ रहने वाले,  यहाँ तक कि ऑफिस के सहकर्मी भी मुझसे परेशान रहते थे |

मुझे इस बात का भली भांति एहसास था लेकिन मैं इसे अपना स्वभाव समझ लिया था और अपने को असहाय महसूस करता था |

एक दिन मोर्निंग वाक के दौरान पार्क में एक ऐसे इंसान से मुलाकात हुई जिसकी बात ने मेरी ज़िन्दगी बदल दी |

उन्होंने बताया कि वो एक रिटायर्ड इंजिनियर है, और एक सामाजिक संस्था से जुड़े हुए है | वो हमेशा खुश रहते है , क्योकि जब कभी भी मानसिक तनाव  होता है उसे अच्छी तरह manage कर लेते है | उन्होंने उस सामाजिक संस्था में अपना रिटायरमेंट से प्राप्त राशी का बड़ा हिस्सा दान कर दिया है |

 और अपने पेंशन की राशी से अपना गुज़ारा करते है | पत्नी का स्वर्गवास पांच साल पहले हो चुकी है . और एक बेटा है जो विदेश में रहता है |

वे यहाँ अकेले ही अपने खुद के मकान में रहते है, लेकिन वो संस्था के लोग अपने परिवार जैसे लगते है, और अकेलापन महसूस नहीं होता है | उन्होंने बताया कि वो जिस संस्था से जुड़े हुए है वो संस्था लाचार और मानसिक रूप से कमज़ोर बूढ़े लोग के लिए काम करता है | यह संस्था  उनलोगों की देख भाल, खाना पीना और स्वस्थ सम्बन्धी सारी ज़िम्मेवारियों को उठता है |

यूँ देखा जाये तो हम सब भविष्य की काल्पनिक और नकारात्मक बातों को सोच कर अपने वर्तमान को डर डर कर जीते है  और ज़िन्दगी को नरक बना लेते है |

जबकि आज जो हमारे सामने है  यानी कि वर्तमान, उसी की चिंता करना चाहिए और उसी को सही ढंग से जीना चाहिए |

अगर हम अपने वतर्मान पर ध्यान देने लगे  और उसे सही ढंग उसे जीने लगे तो समझिये कि हमने ज़िन्दगी का राज समझ लिया है …..और यह हमारे मानसिक और शारीरिक संतुलन बनाने में मदद करती है |

क्योकि कल तो हमेशा कल रहता है,  तो हम कल की चिंता कल करेगे, उसके लिए अपना आज क्यों ख़राब करें |

अपने आज को मस्त होकर एन्जॉय कीजिये और अपने साथ साथ दूसरों को भी खुश रखिये, यही सुखी जीवन का मूलमंत्र है …आप का क्या विचार है…???.

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Enjoy Your Golden Year..

Some said, “Retirement is the age when we think about all the negative aspects of our life .”

You must have had thought a lot about how you want to enjoy your golden years. But there’s a good chance you never thought much about the psychological effect, retirement might have on you.

Retirement often means a loss of identity. Whether you were identified as a banker, or any professional, retirement can cause you to question, “who you are now, that you are no longer working.”

Other issues that accompany retirement—such as more time and less money—can also tend to difficulty in adjusting.

Some retirees experience mental health issues, such as depression and anxiety, after they have stopped working. 

If you’re in the early stages of retirement and feeling somewhat lost, you’re not alone.

Many retirees find the transition to be difficult. Following these eight tips might help you adjust to retirement better so you can feel fulfilled and happy during this chapter of your life.

Adjust your Emotional Quotient :

There’s an emotional process that most people go through when adjusting to retirement. At first years, there’s a feeling of freedom. It’s like you’re on a vacation that is  going to last forever.

That sense of novelty wears off, however, and you will settle into a slower lifestyle. There might be a stage that involves a lot of, “Oh, no! What did I do?” thoughts, followed by anxiety and boredom.

You might even feel guilty for not enjoying retirement as much as you think you should.

Suppressing your emotions or denying your feelings can lead to unhealthy coping strategies—like relying on alcohol or food.

Allow yourself to experience a wide range of emotions, whatever those emotions may be, look for healthy ways to deal with those feelings. You might find walking, reading, writing, talking to others, or yoga helps you deal with your emotions.

Plan Your Days :

During Pre-retirement era, you had your fixed routine life.  As the alarm goes off, shower, breakfast, pack a lunch, head out the door.

There was probably a similar structure to the end of your days that began when you walked back over the threshold of your home.

If you thrive with a schedule, you might establish a retirement routine also that helps you plan your days. Experiment with various activities and time slots to see how it makes you feel.

Make a daily routine with fixed time slot such as for the newspaper with enjoying a cup of coffee, regular time for exercise, social activities, time for your hobbies and family meals.

While your days don’t need to be rigid, having a set wake-up time and routine can help you feel more normal now that you are not going to work.

Set Small Goals:

Your pre-retirement life was measured in meeting milestones, such as making deadlines, finishing projects, or getting a promotion.

You can still focus on goals after you retire, though they might be a little different than they were before. Working on goals can give you a sense of purpose and accomplishing new things can give you a sense of achievement.

Think about what milestones you might want to meet in the first month, six months, or one year that you’ve been retired and write them down.

Do you want to lose 10 pounds? Travel to Europe? (Yes, goals can be fun, too!) Finish five books that you’ve been putting off? The sky’s the limit.

Grow Your Friendships:

There’s a significant risk of becoming isolated during retirement. After 30 years of meeting friends through work and seeing them every day, it might not be as easy to keep up with those you hold dear. 

This can play into the restructuring of your daily routine—ask one friend to meet you for lunch every Monday, another friend to go walking through the neighborhood with you on Wednesdays and a third pal to grab a coffee on Friday afternoons.

If you and your spouse are friends with other couples, aim to invite them over for dinner or board games at least once a month.

If you don’t feel like you have enough people to keep you socially active, take advantage of the extra time in your life to make new friends.

Check out any programs offered at your church, temple, mosque, gurdwara or a local community center, or find a group of like-minded individuals who share an affection for your favorite hobby, whether it’s golf, crafts or cooking.

Meetup groups are also available for many hobbies and activities.

Consider Part Time  Job :

Who says that retirement from one job has to mean leaving the workforce entirely? A number of folks try out a less-stressful secondary career, perhaps one that’s part-time, after leaving their longtime industry.

Research finds that retirees who got a “bridge” job, another term for this type of work, are often in better health, both mentally and physically, and report higher levels of life satisfaction.

So look around your community (or search the internet for work from home opportunities) for jobs that you might enjoy doing during retirement.

Create a New Budget:

Even the best savers might have to make some spending adjustments after retirement. In an ideal world, you have saved enough to last 20 to 30 years, but if you’re like most retirees,

there’s a good chance you might fall a bit short of that goal.

Figure out what you need in your new post-career life and what you don’t.

For example, that clothing budget that you always spent on business clothes can go out the window, but you might need to add in a category for membership dues for a variety of organizations that you wish to join.

Establish a budget that will help you see how much money you have for entertainment or fun. You might learn you need a part-time job so you can go on an annual vacation.

Or, you might discover you have enough money left over to take your grand kids to lunch once a week

Schedule Volunteer Shifts:

Not willing to go back to the office grind? That’s understandable. You might find you had rather reap the same benefits by volunteering on a regular basis.

The perks might be related to the expanded social ties that volunteering provides or the sense of purpose a person can feel by committing to charitable causes.

It’s not only going to boost your psychological well-being, but it could improve your cardiovascular health and lower the risk of hypertension, too.6

Whether you choose to help out at your local library or you decide you’d like to volunteer at the hospital, look for ways to get involved in your community.

Give Yourself Flexibility to Figure It Out :

You might think that you want to spend your retirement painting, cooking, and reading, but then find out that all that time spent at home doesn’t fulfill the lifestyle you dreamed about.

After 30 years in the workplace, you finally have time to experiment with what you really want.

There are many different ways you can spend your time. And fortunately, there’s no need to figure it all out right away.

It will likely take a fair amount of experimenting to help you find just the right balance of how you want to spend your time.

You can always increase social activities later or develop new hobbies if you want to stay busier.

The joy of retirement is that you will have plenty of opportunities to experiment. It is up to you to design the type of day—and kind of life—that you want to live.

All the Best

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Education system in lock-down

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Happy Teacher’s Day

A teacher’s purpose is not to create students in his own image,

but to develop students who can create their own image…

Sometimes ago when I was still employed in Bank, I was experiencing official meetings through video conferences, which was very exciting and relatively new for me,

But today, I am experiencing the same system in the online education system due to COVID -19, as I have to manage the show daily during online classes of my granddaughter.

Lockdown to contain the spread of the COVID-19 pandemic have posed many challenges for education globally, and India is no exception. During the lockdown, all the school and colleges are closed since a long time and now one is unable to predict when they will resumes as usual. The extent of impact of the lockdown on schools, community and children is proportionally higher.

India has 1.4 million schools, 2.01 million children enrolled in government schools from 1st to 8th grade and an additional 3.8 million children enrolled in 9th and 10th grade. It has been learnt that Approximately 29% of India’s population are children, and 19.29% are in the age group of 6-14 years. This group is legally entitled to education under the Right to Education.

These days, all student, particularly children group is suffering a lot due to school shutting down. Looking at the big challenges to school education in the COVID-19 scenario, the government has announced – digital and online education,

And friends. We therefore are experiencing new method of learning called as Online Classes conducted by schools. The real potential of the student do not get  recognized and overall development is jeopardized.

The school teachers are evolving new method of teaching to make the online classes interesting. What do you think, a school teacher must do for their student for easy learning and keep the online classes more interesting… Please share your views too in the comments below the blog. 

Here are few of my suggestions on how the teacher can help students even more with the online learning system:

1. Believe in your student’s potential.

A teacher’s success begins with the success of their students. Always have high expectations for your students. Believe in their potential to succeed and make sure you push them to their limits.

Even when they fail, motivate them to try again and to work harder. This strategy helps you to pull out of their comfort zones so that they can pursue success knowing that you are there to pick them up each time they fail.

2. Learn everything you can about your field.

Being very knowledgeable in your field of study is also a crucial stepping stone towards a successful teaching career.

It’s true that even the most successful teachers don’t know everything, but, the more you know the easier it will be to teach your student and to offer them prompt answers to their questions. you can also do more with technology, such as doing online lessons and creating exciting technology based activities.

Learning never stop and that is why as a teacher you need to feed your mind with as much information as it can take it. Remember that students always prefer consulting teacher who are known to possess in depth knowledge about a specific field, knowledge indicates authenticity.

3. Be fun and energetic.

Did you know that most students are more comfortable sharing their academic problems with humorous and enthusiastic teachers rather than the grumpy and ‘ever serious’ ones?

Yes ! The way to carry yourself greatly determines your approach and ability towards solving their problems..

Make a point of smiling each time you converse with your students, crack a joke or two and so on. This helps to ease any tension of fear that the student may be filling when approaching you for help.

4. Take risks

They say, “No risk…no reward”…..taking risk plays a crucial part in a person’s success, your students watch and observe all your moves.

Therefore if you take risks by trying new things every once in a while, they will also be confident enough do the same. This pushes them to burst out their bubbles, exploring the unknown which eventually nurtures their risk taking skills and eventual success.

5. Be creative and think outside the box

The strategies you use to pass on information to your students need to be creative, in a way that captures the attention of your classroom. Strive to make each learning lesson a thrilling one for your students.

This not only makes their learning experience fun but also ensures that they are fully engaged during each class and always eager for the next one. This will also help in preparing school systems to face such pandemics more efficiently.

It will also move towards building a strong public education system in the country. COVID-19 did teach us how schooling is not equivalent to merely learning, but encompasses a social space, a social process, to learn to live, think and act for one’s self and the collective good.

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