Friends,

We all know what anger is ?.

It is wise to control the anger before it controls you.

Sometimes we get angry and cannot control ourselves. Have you thought about why we get angry and what causes made us angry ?.

The answer is — when something we want does not happen, that is the reason that makes us angry.

No doubt Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control it turns destructive.

Yes, Anger is one of the most destructive of human emotions. it robs us of peace of mind and clouds our ability for rational thinking.

The wisdom that we have accumulated over a lifetime and social etiquette that we have learned with great effort; all vanish in a moment of fury.

We all have seen temper or unnecessary anger destroy families and ruin one’s life.

One moment of Anger

 In anger, we say things that we later live to regret. Unfortunately, words once spoken cannot be retracted. Like an email once sent, cannot be deleted. That is why the thumb rule is that if you framed an email in a bad mood, wait for 24 hours before you click the send button.

Likewise, if you feel anger, just think of its devasting result and try to keep your mind cool.

Once, there was an incident when I was in college.  There was my close friend who happened to study together.  Once we had a difference of opinion on a small matter. He suddenly got so angry that he shouted at me with the words – I hate you, I hate you.

Challenge yourself to control

His behavior shocked me, as he was the most trusted and 10 years old friend of mine.  However later when the anger subsided, he realized that we all are different and we have the right to our personal opinion. After that, he also humbly apologized to me. I accepted that too. But I realized that my relationship could never be the same afterward. That compatibility and trust had changed forever.

It is a fact that when anger persists, it has extremely debilitating effects on our bodies and mind. Anger causes the brain to trigger the release of two hormones, adrenaline which is epinephrine, and cortisol. these two are known as stress hormones. They result in an increase in blood pressure and body temperature.

Now when this happens once in a while, the body can make up for it. but when it is a regular occurrence then, this can result in so many health [problems like headaches, digestive problems insomnia, eczema, High BP, and much more. that is why anger is sometimes called manas rog (mental affliction).

It is truly said …… anger is an acid that hurts the vessel in which it is stored far more than anything on which it is poured.

Something to think about!  When we are hurt,  we harbor resentment and negativity and sometimes even think of hurting the other person without realizing that these sentiments injure us more than anybody else.

The highest goodness is like water

It is therefore important to manage our anger. There are so many tools that can be useful to keep anger away. I would like to share something like:

Relaxation

Yoga exercise of deep breathing and relaxing imagery is very helpful to cool down our angry feelings.

We may try the following steps.

1. Breath deeply, from our diaphragm;        

2. breathing from our chest slowly.. See your breath coming up from your “gut.”

3. Slowly repeat a calm word such as “relax,” or “take it easy.” Repeat it to yourself while breathing deeply.

4. Use imagery; visualize a relaxing experience or happy moments from either your memory or your imagination.

5. Easy physical exercises can relax your muscles and make you feel much calmer.

  Research shows that physical exercise increases brain grey matter and makes the white matter more connected.  Make sure to get enough sleep as that is when your glial brain cells do their pruning to make your brain work better.   

Practice these techniques daily. Learn to use them automatically when you’re in a tense situation.

Complaining is truly my strongest weakness

Problem-Solving

Sometimes, our anger and frustration are caused by very real and inescapable problems in our lives.

Anger is a healthy and natural response to these difficulties.

There is also a cultural belief that every problem has a solution, so make a plan, and check your progress along the way.

Resolve to give it your best, but also not to punish yourself if an answer doesn’t come right away.

 If your approach is with your best intentions and efforts, your anger will go down even if the problem does not get solved right away.

I am strong

Better communication

If you’re in a heated discussion, the first thing to do is slow down and think through your responses.

Don’t react immediately, but slow down and think carefully about what you want to say.

At the same time, listen carefully to what the other person is saying and take your time before answering.

If another person starts complaining about your activities, don’t retaliate by painting that person as Hitler.

It’s natural to get defensive when you’re criticized, but don’t fight back.

Instead, listen to what’s underlying the words: the reason that this person might feel neglected and unloved.

Mutual Communication is the best way to solve any problems of anger…

Write it down

Sometimes, writing stuff down can help you work out why you’re feeling angry and how you might be able to deal with it. It’ll also help you to put things in perspective. I am also adopting this formula.

Control your Temper

 Count to 100,

This one seems pretty basic, but it works.

Thinking about something other than what’s making you upset for 100 seconds. It can help you avoid blowing a fuse. It gives you a chance to gather yourself and your thoughts before you do anything else. or, When angry count to ten before you speak

Press pause

When you feel angry about something, it’s almost impossible to deal with the situation in a productive or helpful way. If you feel yourself losing your cool, just walk away from the situation for a while. You’ll deal with it better when everyone is feeling calmer.

I don’t need Anger Management

 Talk to someone

Talking to someone you trust about how you’re feeling can take a weight off your shoulders as well as your mind.

That could be a trusted friend or family member.

If your anger is getting out of control, consider seeing a mental health professional. And get the solution to your problem.

Take time to relax

If you know what helps you to feel relaxed, you’ll find it really useful whenever you’re feeling angry. Take some time out to do something you enjoy, whether that’s walking in the park, reading a book, or listening to music. All these are helpful in relaxing.

Friends, Anger generally does not resolve any problem but made you feel fearful or vulnerable. It can create new problems including social and health issues. Take care of yourself and better to stay away from anger.

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