Gratification of Successful Life

Hi everyone,

There is a famous Stanford social experiment called marshmallow experiment. They got children between age of three and five and placed a marshmallow on the table in front of them. Marshmallow is a kind of candy which children are really fond of .

All this point, the researcher offered a deal to the children — they told kids that they will leaving the room, and if they don’t touch marshmallow in front of them, if they don’t eat marshmallow in front of them, then the kid would be rewarded with the second marshmallow when they are back.

So choice was simple, one treat right now or two treats later.

Researcher left the room, for 15 minutes, some kids jumped up and ate the first marshmallow as soon as they closed the door, others wiggled and eventually gave in to temptation a few minutes later and finally, a few of the children did manage to wait the entire time, they took their names. Children grew up .

Later, the researchers conducted follow up studies and tracked each child’s progress in a number of areas. What they found was surprising. the children who were willing to delay gratification and wait to receive the second marshmallow ended up having higher test scores, lower level of substance abuse, lower likelihood of obesity, better response to stress, better social skills and generally better scores in a range of other life measures.

They follow these children for years and proved that ability to delay gratification is critical for success in life. The real researcher professor walter michel. Came up with the theory after the study.

It is called the marshmallow theory. it states the person who cannot be patient for 15 minutes can never move forward in life. And if you look around, you will see this playing out everywhere.

If you delay the gratification of .. say, watching television and if you do your homework, then you will learn more and get better grades. If you delay the gratification of buying sweets and chips at the store, then you will eat healthier when you get home. If you delay the browsing social media all day long, he will be more productive in your life. So many examples are like this .

Success usually comes down to choosing the pain of discipline over the ease of distraction. And that is exactly what delayed gratification is all about .

In other words, you have to pay the price, I was recently watching a video of our Olympics gold medal winner Neeraj Chopra his training schedule. It is mind blowing.

If really you want something worthwhile, significant in life, you must be willing to pay the price, Neeraj Chopra in one of his interviews said he switched off his phone for almost a year while he was in Sweden for training. He uses to phone only to call his mother. When you have that kind of commitment, focus, and dedication, and if you are ready to delay your gratification for a greater reward, you will become one in a billion.

The ability to be disciplined and take action instead of becoming distracted and doing what is easy is actually the secret.

Success in nearly every field need some form of discipline. So, we have to invest our time, effort and energy. Patience pays.

But unfortunately, we are living in the world right now which is like, enjoy right now and pay later. This is the world of credit cards and EMI,  the world of instant gratifications.

Everything is just one click away. We are becoming more and more impatient as a generation. There is a price we must to pay to get something significant.  That price can be our discipline, determination, dedication, commitment, hard work focus.

And that’s simply the way life works. Shortcuts and hacks do not help us in long run.  And more than that, when things come easy to us, when it is free, we don’t value it. This is the human psychology.

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7 replies

  1. Success always demand sacrifice, sacrifice of time, sacrifice of our relationship, sacrifice of our will.

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  2. Nicely analysed the success of life.

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  3. Reblogged this on Retiredकलम and commented:

    Immature people always want to win an argument.
    even at the cost of a relationship, whereas
    Mature people understand that it is always better
    to lose an argument and win a relationship..
    Stay happy…Stay blessed..


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