
“The oak fought the wind and was broken; the willow bent when it must and survived.” — Robert Jordan
Hello dear friends,
I hope this blog finds you in a cheerful mood.
Today’s writing prompt asks a deeply personal question:
“What’s a chapter of your life you’d title The Hard Years — and what got you through it?”
At first glance, the question invites us to revisit painful memories. Yet beneath it lies something far more meaningful.
Every life has its seasons. Some bloom with joy and celebration, while others are marked by uncertainty, loss, disappointment, and silent battles that few people ever see.
If I had to give one chapter of my life a title, it would undoubtedly be “The Hard Years.” Not because those years were filled only with suffering, but because they transformed me into someone stronger, wiser, and more compassionate.

The Years That Tested Everything
For me, that chapter was the COVID-19 pandemic.
Like millions of people across the world, I found myself living through a time that none of us had imagined possible.
Streets fell silent. Schools, offices, and places of worship closed their doors. We learned unfamiliar words like lockdown, quarantine, and social distancing. The world seemed to pause, yet anxiety continued to grow.
Fear became a daily companion. News of rising infections and heartbreaking losses filled every conversation.
Families were separated from one another. Many people lost their jobs, their businesses, their loved ones, and, for a time, even their peace of mind.
Life tested me in ways I had never expected. There were moments of uncertainty and loneliness, moments when the future seemed hidden behind a curtain of doubt.
Yet, somehow, I endured. Looking back, I realize that survival itself was an achievement.
The pandemic became one of humanity’s greatest lessons in resilience.
Doctors and nurses worked beyond exhaustion to save lives. Scientists raced against time to develop vaccines. Teachers reinvented classrooms through computer screens.
Parents became caregivers, educators, and emotional anchors all at once. Neighbours helped neighbours, strangers helped strangers, and countless acts of kindness quietly reminded us that compassion can flourish even in the darkest times.
The pandemic showed us that while a virus could separate us physically, it could never completely extinguish the human spirit.

Strength Is Not Perfection
One of the most valuable lessons I learned during those difficult years is that strength does not mean never breaking down.
Strong people cry.
Strong people feel afraid.
Strong people become tired.
Yet they choose to continue.
That is the true meaning of courage.
Strength is not the absence of pain; it is the decision to keep moving despite it.
Many of the strongest people I know fought battles that no one else ever saw. They smiled while carrying heavy burdens and quietly inspired others simply by refusing to give up.
As the Japanese proverb wisely reminds us,
“Fall seven times, stand up eight.”
Resilience is rarely dramatic. More often, it is found in ordinary people making the quiet decision to try again tomorrow.

What Carried Me Forward
People often ask how anyone survives difficult years.
The answer is rarely one extraordinary event.
Instead, it is a collection of small blessings that quietly keep us moving.
- The unwavering support of family.
- Friends who listened without trying to solve every problem.
- Books that reminded me that others had survived even greater storms.
- The beauty of nature, where every sunrise whispered that darkness never lasts forever.
- Writing, reading, and creative pursuits that gave purpose to otherwise uncertain days.
And above all, hope.
Hope asks for no guarantees. It simply encourages us to take one more step.
As Martin Luther King Jr. beautifully said,
“We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope.”
Those words became especially meaningful during the pandemic, when hope itself often felt like an act of courage.

Discovering Strength You Never Knew You Had
One surprising truth about difficult years is this:
- You rarely realize how strong you have become until the struggle is over.
- Adversity stretches our patience.
- Failure teaches humility.
- Loneliness deepens self-understanding.
- Waiting cultivates perseverance.
The hardships we once wished away often become the experiences that shape our character and deepen our appreciation for life.
As Ernest Hemingway wisely wrote,
“The world breaks everyone, and afterward, many are strong at the broken places.”
Those broken places eventually become reminders—not of defeat—but of healing.
Gratitude Changes the Story
Perhaps the greatest gift the hard years gave me was gratitude.
Not gratitude because life was easy.
Gratitude because, even during the darkest days, there was always something worth appreciating.
- A warm meal.
- A phone call from a friend.
- A peaceful morning.
- A stranger’s kindness.
- A page written.
- A lesson learned.
Gratitude does not erase suffering.
It changes the way we see it.
Instead of asking,
“Why is this happening to me?”
we slowly begin asking,
“What is this experience trying to teach me?”
That simple change in perspective has the power to transform despair into growth.

Every Storm Leaves Behind a Clearer Sky
Looking back, I would never wish to relive those difficult years.
Yet I would not erase them either.
Without them, I might never have learned patience.
I might never have appreciated life’s ordinary blessings.
I might never have understood the quiet courage that lives within every human being.
The hard years taught me that life is not measured by the absence of struggle but by the strength we discover while walking through it.
As Rumi beautifully observed,
“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.”
Sometimes our deepest wounds become our greatest teachers.
My Final Submission
Every one of us has a chapter called “The Hard Years.” The details differ, but the lessons are remarkably similar.
If you are living through such a chapter today, remember this:
- It is only one chapter—not the entire book.
- Keep walking.
- Keep believing.
- Keep growing.
One day, you will look back and realize that the years you once feared were quietly preparing you for the life you were meant to live.
The COVID-19 pandemic reminded us that life is fragile, but it also revealed something extraordinary: the human spirit is remarkably resilient. Even after the darkest night, dawn faithfully returns.
Because storms do not last forever.
But the strength they leave behind often does.
Which chapter of your own life would you call “The Hard Years,” and what helped you find your way through it? I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments.

BE HAPPY… BE ACTIVE… BE FOCUSED… BE ALIVE
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Verma ji, your words have touched something deep within me.
The way you’ve woven the pandemic into a story of resilience rather than just loss is truly beautiful. I especially loved how you described strength—not as never breaking, but as choosing to continue despite the breaking. That distinction changes everything.
The metaphor of scars becoming “reminders of healing” rather than defeat gave me chills. It’s so easy to view our wounds as permanent marks of failure, but you’ve reframed them as evidence of survival.
Your reflection on gratitude transforming despair into growth is a lesson I needed to hear today. Sometimes we get so caught up in “why me” that we forget to ask “what is this teaching me.” Thank you for that gentle but powerful reminder.
As someone who also went through those difficult pandemic years, I recognize so much of my own journey in your words. The loneliness, the uncertainty, the small acts of kindness that kept us going—you’ve captured it all with such grace.
This line will stay with me: “The hard years taught me that life is not measured by the absence of struggle but by the strength we discover while walking through it.”
Thank you for sharing your story so openly. It’s a gift to all of us reading it. 🙏
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Thank you so much for your heartfelt and thoughtful words.
They truly mean a great deal to me. I’m touched that my reflections resonated with your own journey through those challenging years. If my experiences could offer even a little comfort or encouragement, then sharing them was worthwhile.
Wishing you continued strength, peace, and many brighter days ahead. 🙏🌿
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Your life is so colorful. 🥰 God Bless you
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Thank you so much for your kind and generous words. 😊
Life has certainly been a journey with many colours—some bright, some challenging—and each has taught me something valuable. I’m truly grateful for your blessings.
Wishing you a life filled with happiness, good health, and countless beautiful moments. 🙏🌸
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Everyone has inner battles, but life goes on, so we keep going. You said it right, Verma.
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Thank you so much.
I truly believe that every person carries unseen battles, and yet we find the courage to keep moving forward. That’s one of the most inspiring aspects of the human spirit. I’m glad those words resonated with you.
Wishing you continued strength and brighter days ahead. 🙏🌿
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Experience will always teach those lessons in life. Thank you for this inspiring post Vijay.🌿🍂
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Thank you so much for your thoughtful words. 🌿
I couldn’t agree more—experience is often life’s greatest teacher, and its lessons stay with us forever. I’m truly grateful that the post resonated with you.
Wishing you continued good health, peace, and many more inspiring moments on your journey. 🙏
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Thank you.🌿🍂
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You are most welcome.❤️
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I lost my sense of hearing because of Covid.😒
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I’m so sorry to hear that.
COVID affected people in so many unexpected and lasting ways, and losing your hearing must have been an incredibly difficult experience.
Thank you for sharing something so personal. I truly admire your strength, and I wish you continued courage, good health, and many moments of joy despite the challenges. Take care. 🙏
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Thank you Vijay, I am wearing hearing aids now. So expensive maintenance because of weekly change of batteries.🌿🍂
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Thank you for sharing that with me.
I hope the hearing aids are making everyday conversations more comfortable for you, even though I understand the ongoing maintenance and frequent battery changes can be quite expensive. The important thing is that they help you stay connected with the people and moments that matter most.
Please take good care of yourself, and I wish you continued good health, comfort, and many peaceful days ahead.
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I have always been firm in my belief that life and its accompanying experiences are probably one of our greatest teachers.
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Thank you, Sir. I wholeheartedly agree with your beautiful thought.
Life is indeed our greatest teacher. Every experience—whether joyful or painful, a success or a setback—leaves us with lessons that no book alone can teach. If we remain open to learning, every stage of life helps us grow in wisdom, compassion, and understanding.
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A beautifully written and deeply inspiring reflection Verma ji💙 Your words remind us that our hardest chapters often become the ones that shape our greatest strength. Thank you for sharing such hope and wisdom. 🤍✨🦋
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