
Hello dear friends,
I hope this blog finds you in a cheerful mood, sipping your favorite tea and letting your mind wander into thoughtful reflections.
Today’s prompt stirred something deep in me—“What makes you nervous?” A simple yet profound question, isn’t it? Like a pebble dropped in still water, it creates ripples that touch every corner of our consciousness.
Let’s pause and think—why do we get nervous? What lies beneath that flutter in the stomach, the sweaty palms, the racing heart?
Nervousness is not a weakness. It is a signal. It tells us that something matters, that we are stepping into the unknown, and that we care deeply.

The Stage of Life and Spotlight Moments
I remember the first time I had to speak in front of a crowd. My hands trembled, and words danced on the tip of my tongue but refused to come out.
The fear of judgment, of failure, of being seen and misunderstood—that’s what made me nervous.
Whether it’s a presentation, a performance, or expressing your emotions, the stage (literal or metaphorical) brings out our vulnerabilities.
It’s ironic—what makes us human also makes us nervous: the longing for connection, and the fear of disapproval.
The Ringing Phone of Uncertainty
Sometimes, a simple phone call from an unknown number makes me uneasy. Isn’t it strange? The mind leaps ahead, crafting scenarios—What if it’s bad news?
Our imagination becomes our greatest adversary. We are nervous not about reality, but about the uncertainty it carries.
As thinkers and dreamers, our intelligence often turns shadows into monsters.
In a way, nervousness is our brain’s way of saying, “Be careful. This could change something.”

Loved Ones and Fragile Bonds,
Another thing that makes me nervous is when someone I love is going through a difficult time. As a father, a husband, a grandfather, the well-being of my family is tied closely to my own sense of calm.
When my granddaughter had her first stage performance, I was probably more nervous than she was! Why?
Because love adds gravity to moments. You want things to go well, you want to shield them from pain—and yet, life is outside our control.
The Inner Critic
Here’s something intellectual—one of the most common sources of nervousness is not external at all. It’s internal.
It’s the little voice inside that whispers:
- “You’re not ready.”
- “You’re not good enough.”
- “What if you fail?”
This inner critic is cunning and often sounds reasonable. It pretends to protect us, but really, it cages us.
When we recognize this voice for what it is—a pattern of thought, not truth—we begin to reclaim our courage.

Creativity and Fear of Exposure
As a writer, painter, and creator, sharing my work also makes me nervous. Each poem, each painting is a piece of my soul. What if it’s not understood? What if it’s dismissed?
But here lies the paradox—the things that make us nervous are often the very things that lead to growth. Just beyond nervousness lies confidence. Just past fear lies freedom.

So What Do We Do With Nervousness?
We embrace it. We learn from it. We understand that nervousness is not the enemy—it’s the prelude to greatness.
Here’s what helps me:
- Deep breathing – It calms the storm within.
- Preparation – The more I prepare, the less I fear.
- Self-talk – I remind myself: “This matters to me, and that’s why I feel this way.”
- Perspective – I ask, “What’s the worst that could happen? And will it matter in a year?”
- Gratitude – I thank my nerves. They mean I’m alive, I care, I’m growing.
a gift in disguise
Dear friends, nervousness is not a flaw. It is a gift in disguise. It means you are challenging yourself, stepping beyond comfort, and embracing life fully.
So the next time your heart races and your palms sweat — smile. You’re on the brink of something meaningful.
After all, diamonds are made under pressure—and perhaps, so are we.

BE HAPPY… BE ACTIVE… BE FOCUSED… BE ALIVE
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very nice .
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Thank you so much.
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I hear you about nervousness about public speaking. It is something I have long lived with and still incur. I am not one who likes to be singled out and do much better with small groups. Also, I think there is a fine line between nervousness and anxiety. My nervousness in my youth was more like anxiety…I just wanted to get it over with. Have a great day. Allan
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Thank you for sharing that so honestly, Allan. 🙏
I completely understand what you mean—that fine line between nervousness and anxiety can feel very real, especially in those moments when all you want is for it to be over. It’s interesting how, over time, we learn to live with it, maybe not fully overcoming it, but understanding it better.
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I understand why these situations would make you feel nervous. All the best to you.
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Thank you, I really appreciate your understanding and kindness. 🌿
It means a lot when someone can see the emotional side of things without judgment. Wishing you the same calm and ease—hope everything flows smoothly for you too. Take care 😊
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It’s a lovely image—finding a moment of stillness with a warm cup of tea to let the mind explore. There is nothing quite like that quiet transition into reflection to set the right tone for a meaningful conversation. I hope your day is as peaceful as that setting!
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That’s such a calming thought to sit with. 🌿
There really is something special about those quiet pauses—when the world slows down just enough for thoughts to breathe and settle. A warm cup of tea, a bit of stillness, and suddenly everything feels a little clearer, a little gentler.
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I’m thalassophobic so being in the open sea makes me nervous. When I see the heaving ocean, I have this ominous feeling it will swallow me to the depths.
As for the phone calls you mentioned, I’m more nervous when they’re from my loved ones. I always think something bad happened. Usually that’s urgent enough to merit a phone call.
But yes, Sir V, you should be wary of incoming calls from strange numbers. They’re usually scammers. They might be phishing for your personal information or even recording your voice.
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That makes a lot of sense, honestly.
That feeling you described about the ocean… it’s not irrational at all. The sea has that vast, unknowable depth—it does feel like something that could swallow you whole. Thalassophobia taps into that primal fear of what we can’t see or control. Even people who love the ocean admit there’s something a little eerie about it when it gets too open and quiet.
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