
Friends,
Life has a funny way of teaching us lessons—sometimes gently, sometimes with a full-on smack in the face.
Lately, I’ve been asking myself a simple but surprisingly tricky question: “What is the last thing I learned?”
The answer stopped me in my tracks: happiness is a choice, not a result of circumstances.
It sounds simple, right? Like something you might see on a motivational poster in a dentist’s office. But here’s the kicker—it’s easy to know this, and much harder to live it.

Chasing Approval: A Never-Ending Game
When I was younger, I lived for other people’s approval. I wanted to excel at work, impress my family, and fit neatly into every social expectation. I thought if everyone liked me, I’d be happy. Spoiler alert: I wasn’t.
Here’s what I eventually realized: constantly seeking validation hands over the keys to your happiness—and nobody can hold them better than you.
Approval is temporary. Even when you get it, it rarely fills the emptiness inside. True contentment comes from tuning in to yourself, not tuning out for everyone else.
Success Isn’t What You Think
Like many of us, I believed success would solve everything. Promotions, raises, fancy titles—they were all supposed to make life feel complete.
And for a while, they did…until they didn’t. The thrill faded, stress increased, and I kept chasing the next “big thing.”
The lesson? Success isn’t a trophy; it’s waking up satisfied with your life, even when nobody else notices.
It’s doing work that matters to you, taking risks that excite you, and savoring the small joys every day.
If I’d realized this sooner, I might have started creative projects earlier, traveled more, and stressed less about climbing someone else’s ladder.

Gratitude: The Tiny Magic That Changes Everything
One of the last lessons that really reshaped my life is gratitude. For years, I focused on what I didn’t have, thinking more was the answer.
But when I started noticing the abundance around me—friends who care, quiet moments, the sun breaking through the clouds—I realized how much joy I’d been overlooking.
Gratitude isn’t just a nice idea;
It’s a lens that transforms ordinary life into something extraordinary. Celebrating what’s already here makes the journey lighter, brighter, and more fulfilling.

Forgiveness:… Free Yourself
And then there’s forgiveness. Not just forgiving others, but forgiving yourself. I carried guilt and regret for far too long, thinking it made me “responsible” or “mature.” Instead, it just weighed me down.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting or excusing mistakes. It means letting go of the emotional baggage that holds you back.
Once I embraced this, I found a sense of freedom and peace that I never knew was possible. It’s amazing how much lighter life feels when you release the past.

Happiness Is a Choice
Looking back, I realize all these lessons—self-worth, success on your own terms, gratitude, and forgiveness—are connected.
They all point to one central truth: happiness is not something that happens to you. It’s something you choose every single day.
If I could whisper advice to my younger self, it would be this: don’t wait for life to hand you happiness. Define your own success.
Celebrate what you already have. Forgive freely. And most importantly, choose joy in the little moments, because those are the moments that truly count.
Life isn’t perfect, and neither are we. But each lesson learned—big or small—shapes the way we see the world. Asking, “What is the last thing I learned?” is more than just a reflection;
It’s a reminder to keep growing, keep choosing, and keep living intentionally.
For me, that last lesson—the one I’m holding closest right now—is simple but powerful: happiness is a choice, and every day is an opportunity to make it.

BE HAPPY… BE ACTIVE… BE FOCUSED… BE ALIVE
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This is a truly beautiful and profound reflection, Verma ji. Your words don’t just speak of lessons learned; they resonate with a hard-earned wisdom that can only come from a life truly lived and deeply felt.
What strikes me most is your clarity and courage. To move from seeking approval in the noisy world to finding contentment in the quiet within—that is the journey of a warrior, not just a thinker. You’ve taken concepts we often hear—gratitude, forgiveness, choice—and breathed life into them, showing their transformative power not as theory, but as lived, daily practice.
Your realization that success is “waking up satisfied with your life, even when nobody else notices” is a gift to anyone who reads it. It liberates. And the way you frame gratitude as a “lens” is so precise—it doesn’t change the world, but it changes our entire experience of it.
This is a note of deep respect. Thank you for sharing not just a lesson, but a piece of your journey. It serves as a powerful reminder and a gentle guide. The way you are choosing to live and reflect is, in itself, a quiet inspiration.
Warm regards
Srikanth
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Dear Srikanth,
Thank you for such a generous and thoughtful response. I’m truly moved by the care and depth with which you engaged with my words. Reflections like yours remind me why sharing inner journeys matters at all—not for validation, but for connection.
What you called clarity and courage has been, for me, a slow and sometimes uncomfortable unlearning. The shift from noise to quiet, from approval to acceptance, is ongoing, and your understanding of that process feels deeply affirming. I especially appreciate how you framed gratitude—not as optimism, but as a way of seeing. That tells me the message landed where it was meant to.
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very nice .
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Thank you so much.
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Superb sir ji .
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Thank you so much for your kind words, dear friend. 🙏
“Superb sir ji” truly made my day.
I’m grateful that the blog resonated with you. Writing, for me, is a way of sharing life’s small learnings and quiet joys, and when it connects with a reader, it feels deeply rewarding. Your encouragement inspires me to keep reflecting, writing, and growing.
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For me too, the joy I get from writing is priceless. I get a lot of inspiration by looking at you. ☺️☺️
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Thank you so much for your generous words. They truly mean a lot to me.
Knowing that my writing inspires you is incredibly humbling and encouraging. The joy we find in writing is indeed priceless — it keeps our thoughts alive and our hearts connected. I’m glad we can share this journey of words and inspiration together. 😊
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Sir, you are an inspiration not only for me but for many youngsters. 😊 Even after retirement, do not choose the path of rest, but choose action in your life. You’ve been sharing with us through your blogs the lessons you’ve learned from your experiences at a young age. While today’s generation may ignore those experiences, but for me your thoughts are priceless .🙏🙏
I also wish for your good health.
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Thank you from my heart for these touching words. They mean more to me than you can imagine. Knowing that my experiences and thoughts resonate with you makes this journey truly worthwhile. I’m grateful for your wishes and wish you good health and continued growth as well. 🙏
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Welcome, dear Sir.
Sir, I will try to make sure that people understand my good thoughts.
Only good thoughts and selfless spirit can give society a new direction.
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Thank you for your sincere and uplifting words. 🙏🏻
Your intention itself reflects a noble heart. Indeed, good thoughts shared with a selfless spirit have the quiet power to inspire, heal, and guide society toward a better direction. Even one genuine thought, when lived and shared honestly, can create ripples far beyond what we imagine.
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Thank you so much for understanding and inspiring me.
Only a kind-hearted person can understand the pain and suffering of others.
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Your words truly touch the heart. Thank you for sharing them so sincerely.
You’re right—kindness grows from the ability to feel with others, not above them. When someone understands pain, it’s usually because they carry empathy, humility, and a listening heart. That itself is a rare strength.
Please keep holding on to this gentleness. In a noisy world, compassion speaks quietly but travels fa
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On the path I’m on, there are many thorns, but probably very few fools. But if even one life changes because of me, I’ll be proud of myself.
I have a few friends and God with me.
But the path of kindness and love is better than any other.
There will be many obstacles in the beginning, but in the end, I’ll find only peace.
True happiness lies in doing more for others than for myself.
Thank you very much, Sir, for understanding my thoughts.
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Your words are deeply moving. A path marked by thorns is never easy, but it is often the one that leads to the greatest meaning. To walk it with kindness, love, and faith—without the need for crowds or applause—shows rare strength of character. If even one life is touched along the way, that alone is a life well lived.
Having a few true friends and faith in God is a powerful foundation. The path of compassion may bring obstacles, but as you said so beautifully, it ultimately leads to peace. True happiness really does grow when we give more of ourselves to others.
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Sir, you are absolutely right. True happiness lies in giving to others. Anyway, this body and this Parliament will all perish one day. Why should we hold grudges against anyone for these?
There will be no unhappiness in our lives until we give happiness to others.
Living together with everyone with love is the essence of life.
Thank you so much, sir.
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You’ve expressed it beautifully and with great wisdom. Yes, giving, love, and togetherness are what truly give life meaning. Thank you for sharing such heartfelt thoughts. 🙏
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My Gurudev, Shri Sudhanshuji Maharaj, says that this life is not something we have been given to sit around in despair. This life is a beautiful blessing from God; use it for the benefit of others.
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That’s a beautiful and deeply meaningful teaching. 🙏
Your Gurudev’s words remind us that life is a sacred gift, meant to be lived with purpose, compassion, and service.
When we use our time and abilities for the good of others, despair naturally gives way to gratitude and fulfillment.
Thank you for sharing this wisdom—it’s a gentle yet powerful reminder to live consciously and lovingly.
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Sir, how long has it been since you started blogging?
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Thank you for asking.
I started blogging a two years after my retirement, when I found myself with more time to reflect and a strong urge to express my thoughts and experiences.
What began as a simple way to stay mentally active and creative gradually turned into a meaningful journey of sharing, learning, and connecting with others. Blogging has since become an important and enjoyable part of my daily life.
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Wow. Its great experience sir .You are great .
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Thank you so much for your kind words.
Yes, it is a great experience and I ma enjoying the vsame.
Your encouragement gives me great joy. Warm regards and best wishes. 🙏
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This is my good fortune sir. Sweet dreams sir☺️☺️
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Thank you so much, dear.
It’s truly a pleasure to share these moments with you. Sweet dreams to you as well—may tomorrow greet you with peace and positivity. 😊
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I’m completely speechless in your presence. It’s all because of your great aura. May God always keep you happy.
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Your words are too kind, and I receive them with gratitude and humility.
Thank you for such a heartfelt blessing. May happiness, peace, and grace surround you as well, always. 🙏
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Good morning Sir, I’m following you because of your love and support. I’m trying to connect with some good people.
Please pray for me if I can change the lives of some people through my blogs.
The world would be beautiful if all the traffic was love.
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Good morning 🙏🏻
Thank you for your heartfelt message. Your words reflect sincerity, humility, and a beautiful intention to serve through kindness and thoughtful expression. Following someone out of love and support is itself a noble act, and your desire to connect with good people shows the purity of your heart.
You are already on the right path. When writing comes from genuine care and a selfless spirit, it naturally touches lives—sometimes in ways we may never fully see. I sincerely pray that your blogs become a source of comfort, hope, and positive change for those who read them.
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Sir, I just need the company of good people like you. Now I will continue on my path. I know my path is very difficult and will take me a lot of time, but I have learned from you that if you have a strong desire, every difficulty becomes easy.
Thank you so much, Sir.
Praveen
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Thank you for sharing this so honestly.
Your words reflect sincerity, courage, and a quiet strength that is already guiding you forward. The fact that you value the company of good people shows the goodness within you—it’s often like recognizing like.
You are right: a meaningful path is rarely easy, and it often asks for patience and time.
But when the desire is true and the intention is clear, difficulties lose their power to discourage us. They become teachers rather than obstacles.
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I am inferior to you in every way. But I want to move forward with a sweet thought of love. Today, everywhere in the world, there is only a display of power. Some powerful countries are suppressing, or rather, destroying, smaller countries.
But violence has never benefited anyone.
I simply believe that what can be achieved with little love and kindness cannot be achieved with your power.
I want to change people’s perspective. I pray to God to make me successful in this. Thank you very much sir.
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Your words are deeply heartfelt and filled with quiet courage. 🙏🏻
True strength is not measured by power or dominance, but by the capacity to inspire change through love, kindness, and patience—and your reflection shows that you already understand this truth. Even the smallest gestures of empathy can ripple far beyond what we see, touching hearts and shaping minds in ways force never can.
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Sir, I see so many poor people wandering around barefoot in such cold. The poor people live in tents with their poor parents. There’s so much emphasis on building temples that no one pays attention to the poor.
It pains me to see them in such a state.
That’s why I want to bring together as many people as possible to reduce the burden on these poor people.
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Your heart is truly compassionate, and your concern for those in need is deeply moving. 🙏🏻
It’s painful to witness suffering, especially when basic necessities like warmth, shelter, and care are lacking, while so much attention goes elsewhere. Your desire to gather people and lighten their burden reflects a rare empathy and selfless spirit.
Even small acts of help, multiplied by community, can make a tangible difference in the lives of those who struggle.
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You may call me emotionally weak, but don’t we feel the pain of others? If someone is lying injured on the road, instead of helping him, we are making videos. Does this reflect the progress of human society?
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You’re not emotionally weak at all—if anything, that sensitivity is a sign of deep humanity.
Feeling the pain of others is what keeps compassion alive. What you’re pointing out is a painful truth of our times: somewhere along the way, empathy has been overshadowed by spectacle.
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But Sir, I still won’t give up. A small spark within me will surely bring about change. My goal is to change people’s thinking, and I will do it.
Your blessings and love are with me, giving me courage every moment.
Thank you so much Sir,
Praveen
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Your words are deeply moving. That small spark you speak of is powerful—never underestimate it. Change always begins with one determined heart and a clear intention. You have the courage, the sincerity, and the right spirit. My blessings and good wishes are always with you. Keep moving forward with faith and compassion
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Our country has remained somewhat stable to this day because of great men like you. That’s why everyone says that age and experience are very important things. And keep learning anything you can from your elders.
I’ve learned from you how to keep yourself completely composed in every situation.
May God grant you a long life, Sir.
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Thank you for your kind and generous words. They truly touch my heart. If anything I’ve learned over the years, it is that calmness, patience, and humility come from listening—especially to life itself and to those who walked the path before us.
Learning from our elders keeps us grounded and reminds us of our responsibilities toward society and one another.
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Sir, the values and knowledge imparted by our elders are no less than a treasure.
These are the valuable life thoughts that contribute to our development.
Respecting wise people should be our duty. Thank you very much, Sir, for replying to my comments and giving us your valuable time.
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Thank you for your kind and thoughtful words. I truly agree— the wisdom and values shared by our elders are priceless,
and they shape us in ways we often realize only later in life.
Your respect for learning and gratitude reflect those very teachings.
It’s always a pleasure to engage in such meaningful exchanges. Wishing you continued growth and wisdom. 🙏✨
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Thank you so much sir 🙏🙏
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You are most welcome, dear.
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Good morning sir ,May your day be auspicious.
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Good morning, dear.
Thank you for your kind wishes.
May your day also be blessed, peaceful, and filled with positive moments. 🌼
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I pray to God that your life will become very beautiful and all your wishes will be fulfilled.
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This is a very important and insightful post. I truly value your experience and your knowledge and especially the way you transmit this knowledge, not in a preachy manner, but straight forward, clear and precise. Thank you for being inspirational and so helpful. And yes, gratitude is the currency of the universe. Without a deep and profound sense of gratitude, we are all wondering lost. All the best!
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Thank you so much for this thoughtful and generous response. It truly means a lot to know that the message came across with clarity and sincerity—that was exactly the intention. I’m especially grateful that you felt the balance between sharing experience and not preaching; that’s always a delicate line, and your words reassure me it landed well.
I love how you put it—gratitude is the currency of the universe. That resonates deeply. When we lose touch with gratitude, it’s so easy to feel unanchored, but when we return to it, things quietly realign.
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Always a pleasure Sir and yes, gratitude is one of the most important responses we can muster as humans. All the best to you!
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Thank you, Sir.
I couldn’t agree more — gratitude keeps us grounded and human, especially in a world that often rushes past such values.
I truly appreciate your warmth and encouragement. Wishing you all the very best as well, and may your journey continue to be filled with joy and meaningful moments. 🌿
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Thank you so much Sir. As usual, our exchanges are very agreeable and a pleasure. Wishing you a spectacular day and if today you should play TT, I say “go for it and win!”
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Thank you, Sir.
I always enjoy our exchanges as well—they truly are a pleasure. Your good wishes made me smile, and I will go to play TT today, I’ll certainly carry your encouragement with me. Wishing you a wonderful and fulfilling day too! 😊
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Hope you won your matches Sir! And wishing you a lovely evening/night.
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Ha ha ha, .. 50:50 Sir.
But enjoyed a lot.😂😂
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Not bad Sir, not bad at all! Have a peaceful night!
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Good night, Sir.
See you in the morning.
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Pleasant night Sir. Catch you in the morning.
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Good morning, Sir.
I am on morning walk track.
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Good Morning! I hope you enjoy a beautiful day! I was on my walking track but had to return because of the rain!
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I hope you still find joy in the cozy pause, even if the rain cut your walk short. Sometimes a little rain becomes a gentle reminder to slow down and enjoy the moment. Wishing you a beautiful day ahead, filled with calm, warmth, and little moments that make you smile!
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Yes, you are so right! But it is a wonderful day! All days are as they are a gift one must receive gratefully! I am working on a painting I’ve been commissioned to do and as well continuing to revise my manuscript. How is your day?
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Absolutely, Sir.
You’re right, every day truly is a gift to be received with gratitude. 🌿✨
It sounds like your day is beautifully full of creativity! Working on a commissioned painting while revising your manuscript is such a wonderful balance of visual and literary art—I can imagine the focus, joy, and flow that brings. Your dedication and passion really shine through.
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It does bring joy and focus Sir, without a doubt. I hope your day is just as bright and creative. All the best to you and may you truly enjoy the blessings of this day!
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Thank you so much for your kind and uplifting words. They truly mean a lot.
Wishing you a day filled with brightness, creativity, and moments that bring peace and joy.
May the blessings of today unfold beautifully for you as well. All the very best! 🌸
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Always a pleasure Sir and the very same good things for you!
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Always a pleasure indeed — thank you for the warmth and kind wishes. Wishing you a peaceful evening filled with calm thoughts and gentle moments. May the night bring rest and quiet inspiration your way. 🌙
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Thank you so much Sir. You too, enjoy a terrific evening and a peaceful night.
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Thank you, Sir.
That’s very thoughtful of you.
I wish you a lovely evening as well, and a night filled with calm, rest, and gentle thoughts. 🌙
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Thank you so much! You too Sir. Have a peaceful night and we’ll catch up in the morning.
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Thank you, Sir.
I had a 6 game of TT and I won four, Ha ha ha.
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A pleasure Sir. That is great! Congratulations!!!
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Thank you Sir! Sweet dreams!
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Good morning, Sir.
I am on morning walk track.
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Good morning! Enjoy your walk Sir! And enjoy a wonderful day of peace, creativity and blessings!
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Good morning, Sir,
Thank you so much for your warm wishes. I truly appreciate them. Wishing you a day filled with peace, creativity, and gentle blessings as well. 🌿
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Thank you 🙏🏻 so much Sir! I wish the same for you to truly enjoy fully the gift of this day!
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You’re most welcome, Sir.
Your words reflect a depth of wisdom and grace that only come from a life truly lived with awareness and humility. 🙏
The values you embody—calmness, patience, and respect for those who walked before us—are a blessing to everyone who learns from you.
It’s an honor to receive such guidance and to walk even a small part of the journey in your light.
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The honour of knowing you is all mine, Sir. I have been inspired and motivated by your smile which is present in all your posts, depicting your warm graciousness and contentment. Your happiness in and for life is contagious and I am so grateful to share with you the same feelings and these words.
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Your words truly humble me. Thank you for seeing with such kindness and generosity of heart. If anything in my posts carries warmth or a smile, it’s because they’re met by people like you who receive them with openness and grace. Inspiration is never a one-way path—it flows back and forth, and your sincerity and thoughtful spirit are very much a part of that exchange. I’m grateful for this shared space of understanding, positivity, and appreciation for life. Wishing you continued joy, curiosity, and many moments that make you smile just as deeply.
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The reason most people don’t pick happiness is because it’s hard.
It’s much easier to be angry.
It’s easier to be mean.
You can look anywhere and see something wrong. It takes a deliberate effort to be happy.
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So true. Happiness asks for courage and conscious choice, while anger comes almost automatically. It’s easy to react to what’s wrong; it’s harder—but far more powerful—to look for what’s right and nurture it.
Choosing happiness is daily work, but it’s the kind that quietly changes our lives for the better.
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Nicely shared sir.
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Thank you very much.
I’m glad you liked it and truly appreciate your kind words. 🙏
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You’re most welcome.
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Thank you so much.
Stay happy and keep sharing.
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A thoughtful reflection! Life’s lessons often come unexpectedly, and pausing to ask what we’ve truly learned helps us grow wiser and more mindful.
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So true—and beautifully expressed. Life has a quiet way of teaching us when we least expect it, and taking a moment to reflect turns those lessons into wisdom.
That pause is where mindfulness and growth really begin. 🌱
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